Co-parenting
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Key facts
- Co-parenting is when separated parents share the tasks of raising children.
- You will need to make lots of decisions about living arrangements, school and important occasions.
- A parenting plan lists the things that are agreed between co-parents and helps everyone know what to expect.
- Consent orders are like a parenting plan but are legally enforceable.
- There are some things you can do to co-parent in an amicable way.
What is co-parenting?
Co-parenting is when you share the tasks and responsibility for raising a child when you are divorced or separated from the other parent.
When a relationship breaks down you might start living separately. Lots of decisions will need to be made about your child.
This includes:
- living arrangements
- decisions about the child鈥檚 health and education
- how you will contact and communication with the other parent
- how to manage special occasions
Some tips for co-parenting
Try to put your child first, even if you feel very emotional. Co-parenting works better for kids if you:
- can communicate calmly with your ex-partner
- listen to and acknowledge your child鈥檚 feelings
- live near to the other parent
- are consistent about rules and rewards
- plan for activities, holidays, and special events, such as birthdays
- encourage your child to have a relationship with the other parent
offers services for family relationship issues. They can also help families agree on care arrangements for children after parents separate.
What does the law say about co-parenting?
Australia's Family Law Act says both parents are responsible for the care and welfare of their children. The law presumes it's best for most children if both parents:
- allow the other parent to maintain a relationship with your child
- support and care for your child
- co-operate with each other to make plans that are best for your child
- explain their co-parenting arrangement to your child
If there is a dispute about children, the Family Court can make parenting orders. These orders can state:
- who your child should live with and spend time with
- who should make decisions
- where your child should go to school
- whether your child should have a medical procedure
In May 2024, there were some changes made to the Family Law Act. You can get more information from the or talk to a lawyer.
What are parenting plans and consent orders?
Parenting plan
For co-parenting to work, it's best to have a . This is an agreement between you and your former partner. It doesn't involve going to court.
A parenting plan can detail:
- how you will share parenting responsibilities
- who the kids will live with
- the amount of time to be spent with each parent
- what you will do around holidays and special events
- your child鈥檚 education
- your child鈥檚 health care
- financial care
A parenting plan is not legally enforceable.
Parenting consent orders
If you want a legally binding document, you and your former partner can prepare a written . This is like a parenting plan. It covers parenting and financial arrangements for your kids.
Parenting orders are enforceable by the courts. A consent order needs to be approved by the court, but neither parent needs to attend court.
Visit the more information. In Western Australia, contact the direct.
Resolving disputes when co-parenting
Family relationship centres
If you can't agree on a parenting plan, you can get help from:
- a
- a relationship or family counsellor
- a dispute resolution service
These options are cheaper, easier and less stressful than going to court. You can call the on 1800 050 321 for information.
Family Court
The next step is to seek legal advice and get a 'court parenting order' or a 'financial order'. This is a plan made for you by the courts. Before applying for a parenting order, you should attend .
The main courts dealing with parenting orders or financial orders are the:
- Family Court of Australia
- Family Court of Western Australia
In rural areas, family disputes can be handled by local courts or magistrates' courts.
You can go straight to the Family Court for a parenting order (without trying dispute resolution) if:
- your child might be at risk of abuse or by your former partner
- you or your former partner can鈥檛 co-parent due to physical or
- you or your former partner can鈥檛 participate in co-parenting due to location
- the matter is very urgent
You can also go straight to court if your family dispute can't be solved, as:
- your former partner refuses to negotiate
- your former partner refuses to follow existing orders
What about child support payments
A is a signed agreement between both parents about child support payments. It can be made through for any amount that you both agree on. It can include cash payments as well as non-cash payments such as school fees. Each parent should get legal advice before entering into the agreement.
You can also apply for a . This tells you how much child support you should pay or receive. It's based on both of your incomes and family circumstances.
Resources and support
You don't have to deal with everything on your own. Get help if you need it.
You can ask your doctor for a to a . Or you can:
- contact on 1300 364 277 or read one of their .
- call the on 1800 050 321
- visit
- call on 1800 55 1800
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Last reviewed: September 2024
